Sunday, June 27, 2010

别为小事捉狂


3、大家都开窍了,只有你还没
  这个策略给你一个机会,练习一件你可能完全没有办法接受的事情。不过,你如果试一下,可能会发现,这个练习对自我改善最有助益。
  正如标题所建议的,这个主意是想像你所认识或遇到每个人都非常有教养。那是说,只有你除外!你所遇见的人都是来这儿教你什么事的。或许这个令人讨厌的司机和无礼的青少年是来教你耐心的,而这个摇滚庞克则是来教你不要太武断。
  你的功课是试着决定你生命中遭遇到的人们,究竟要教你什么心得。如果这么做,你就会发现,自己变得比较不会因为他人的行为或不完美,而感到烦恼、生 气、或挫折。你真的可以习惯用这种态度来面对人生,这么做只会让你感到庆幸,绝不会后悔。你一旦发现别人教了你什么,通常就比较容易消除你的挫折感。比 方,你去邮局办事,办事员似乎故意慢吞吞的。不要感到挫折,只要问自己下面这个问题:“他究竟想教我什么?”或许你需要学习同情心,了解做一份自己不喜欢 的工作有多痛苦!或者你也可以变得更有耐心。排队正是你练习打破不耐烦习惯的绝佳机会。
  这件事情很有趣也很容易,连你都会感到惊讶。你真正要做的事情是,将你的认知从“他们为什么要这么做?”改变“他们究竟想教我什么?”今天就看看这些人要给你什么样的启蒙吧。

dont always think about the weakness or bad happening ? we must always appreciate what was carry on now .....besides that we also dont be too emotional ,anything happen we also need be patient and take a proper way to solve it ......

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Thursday, June 24, 2010

Icefrog Thor: my parents are very happy when i done something to them

Icefrog Thor: my parents are very happy when i done something to them

my parents are very happy when i done something to them


24/6/2010 : on 20/6/2010 is father's day .on that day after i back from school i go to nearest market to buy an ice-cream .....that ice-cream only cost RM1.80....before i gave it to my father i afraid my father will said me waste money .....but what i assumed all not happen at all .....when i gave the ice-cream to my father my father felt very happy ......when saw my father so happy me also feel very happy....from this cases that i learned that prizes is not counted by how much it cost but is our sincere ......

after few days that is my mother birthday .......on that day i done the samething also .....i buy the same ice-cream for my mum ......my mum also very happy .....i also very happy at that time .........

so at here i also want encourage everyone.......when our home get any ceremony,we must attends dont make our parent felt that they are ignored......

remember parents only get two ..that is mum and dad ....if want more also can ......we must appreciate them before too late ......

the end ...

Saturday, June 19, 2010

别为小事抓狂


2、学习活在当下
  我们内心的平安,有相当大程度取决于我们活在当下的多寡。不论昨天或去年发生了什么,不管明天会不会发生什么,当下才是你所在的地方,向来都是如此!
  毫无疑问的,我们之中有许多人都十分精通神经质艺术,浪费生命去忧虑各种事情。我们容许过去的问题和未来的忧虑主宰我们目前的时光,结果我们就变得焦 虑不安、挫折沮丧、了无希望。另一方面,我们也延迟我们的满足,我们的优先顺序,以及我们的幸福,去说服自己“总有一天”会比今天更好,不幸的是,告诉我 们期待未来的相同心理机制只会一再重复,结果“总有一天”从未真正到来。约翰•蓝侬曾经说过:“生命就是我们忙着做其他计划的时候,所发生的一切。”当我 们忙着做“其他计画”时,我们的孩子也忙着长大,我们所爱的人正在逐渐远离死去,我们的身体不知不觉地变形,我们的梦想也偷偷溜走。换句话说,我们错过了 人生。
  许多人把生命当作对以后某个日期的彩排来活。人生不是这样的。其实,没有人可以保证,明天他或她还会在这里。现在是我们拥有的唯一时刻,也是我们所能 控制的唯一时光。当我们把注意力放在当下时,我们就能够把恐惧从心底排除出去。恐惧是忧虑未来可能发生的种种,例如,我们将不会有足够的金钱、我们的孩子 会惹出麻烦、我们会老会死等等。
  对抗恐惧的最佳策略就是,学会将你的注意力拉回目前。
  马克•吐温说过:“我这一生经历过一些糟糕的事情,有一些真的发生了。”我想,我无法说得更好了。练习将你的注意焦点放在此时此地,你的努力将会得到丰硕的收获。

dont always concentrated on what already happen or not being happen (future)........we should concentrated on what are going on now and try our best to do the best .....dont make ourself stressful .......

remember not all the happening is expected by us ......all let the god to done it .......what we can done it try our best only ...........hehe

write until this part 1st .........continue when get free time ........relax and happy go through every day .........remember 别为小事抓狂.........

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Friday, June 18, 2010

别为小事抓狂


l、跟不完美和解
  我还没见过哪一个绝对完美主义者的生活充满内在的安宁。完美的需求与内在安宁的渴望相互冲突。每当我们执意坚持己见时,不但无法改善任何事情,而且注定要打一场打败的战争。我们不但不懂得为已经拥有的一切感到满足与感激,还拼命赞牛角尖找差错,执意要修正它。当我们瞄准差错时,它就暗示了我们不满意、不满足。
  不管这个不满是跟我们自己有关,例如衣柜不整、车子刮伤、事情做得不够完美、或需要减轻体重;还是别人的“不完美”,例如他的长相、行为、或生活方式有瑕疵,只要我们把焦点放在不完美上,我们就脱离了仁慈与温和的目标。这个策略并非教你不要全力以赴,只是教你不要过度专注在生活的差错上。它是在告诉你,虽然还有更好的方式可以完成某件事,但是这并不妨碍你去享受并欣赏事情的现状。
  这里的解决之道是,当你陷入旧习,坚持事情不该保持现状时,温和地提醒自己一声,此刻的生活现状很好。在你的判断缺席的时候,一切都没事。当你消除所有生活领域的完美需求时,你就会发现生活本身的完美。

we must be appreciate what we are having now ........we always feel that others is being better then what we are having now ....so this can make us stressful ......so to have a happy life ,we must learn how to appreciate ,then anything will become wonderful and better......

until here 1st......next time post again ......bye bye

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

happy holidays



8-6-2010 today already the third day of school holidays ......in this three day i am very happy because everyday whole family will stay together ,chatting,eating,playing and other ..........besides that , every evening my family will go to exercise together ..........this is the life style that i hope and i want very much .....

i am hoping that ,after 10 years ,i still can having this kind of life style ....happy and enjoy life style ......family make me feel very comfortable and mentally support ........happy life is can't buy using money ........so we must be appreciate what we had now and don't too matterealistic ......

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